As I think about wrapping up 2018, I’d like to take a moment to give some thanks. This has been a challenging year full of growth for me. Not all growth is easy, but it feels so good to work through it and come out the other side stronger than ever before.
I’m thankful for my family and friends – I had genetic testing done a while back and my doctor laughed and told me I had Viking blood, which would explain my stubbornness and determination. I’m so grateful that I come from strong stock. My family never gives up and they support me in all my endeavors. My parents have been married 44 years this January and through thick and thin they have remained loyal to each other and their children. Life is hard and this example of dedication and devotion leaves little room for selfishness. My parents have shown me that life is all give and take, peaks and valleys and love is about putting another first if you want to make headway. My friends and family remind me of all the ways I shine and see the good in me. When I’m feeling insecure they remind me of my strength. In life is all you need are a few good friends. Connection is what makes my life complete and it’s the best feeling in the world to know you are loved.
I’m thankful for my two boys – I’m grateful for my boys who are growing up faster than I’d like. As a single parent who works full time and splits time with them between two households, I often worry that some great life lesson is going to slip through the cracks. It’s hard to discipline your kids and know that when they go to the other parent’s house you have no idea what they are doing. As a single mom, I’ve had to let go of so many things. Sometimes the only thing I feel like I can control raising tweens/teens is being honest with them. I try to talk to them about EVERYTHING, show them what it means to be a good human through my actions, and do my best every day to be happy in my own life. I’ve had to give them a long rope and trust they’ll make good choices. It’s hard to let go of your children but just like any human, can you really control who they become? No, you can guide them, talk to them and let go. By letting them make their own decisions and being a good example to them, I hope they will rise to the occasion. Sometimes a little freedom is all we need to fuel passion and creativity to find our place in the world. I’m thankful for the constant practice in trust and letting go. I love my boys and I’m thankful they keep it real for me.
I’m thankful for my career – I’ve been in the real estate business about 15 years and I have learned so much about life from working 100% commission. I’ve developed thick skin and a stomach for uncertainty. I’ve learned to plan ahead and save for a rainy day. I’ve learned to trust the process and stay accountable. Not knowing where your next paycheck is coming from makes you hustle and stay present. It’s the most rewarding job and the toughest. There’s never time to let up and to be a better you have to make a plan and work it. You also have to manage personalities if you want to have a successful transaction and a happy client. This is not always easy but it has translated into a pretty handy tool for life. Between my teenagers and my relationships, it’s a constant negotiation and practice of listening to meet needs. Who would have ever thought real estate was going to tee me up for life.
I’m thankful for Compass – I joined Compass mid-November after building and branding my own company the past two years. It was an opportunity that presented itself out of the blue, and I made the decision to leave my own brand to join this team. It was like the universe served up everything I was missing on a silver platter. I’m so grateful to be working for such a smart, savvy, agent focused tech company that is working hard to change the experience for real estate agents and the client. Getting in on the ground floor of the Austin, TX launch and working with the best in the business has caused me to pinch myself more than a few times. I can’t wait to see what the future holds for me and my clients.
I’m thankful for my team - When you are financially supporting other people based on your performance it can feel like a lot of pressure. Will I be able to afford my assistants? Can I bring in enough work to sustain everyone? Will there be enough new business in the coming year? I don’t have a crystal ball, but if there’s one thing I know, I have to show up every day and do the best job possible with each client. My entire life I’ve had to trust that my needs will be met, and you know what? They always have been. I was talking to my mom a few weeks ago stressing about the uncertainty in the economy and she reminded me that my needs are being met. It has helped to change my focus from my own wants/needs to that of my team as a whole. We are working together towards a common goal. I couldn’t do what I’m doing without my team. The shift happens when you see your business as machine that fuels many people. Open your outlook and think about how everyone benefits from working together to achieve goals. Jim Rohn always said that you get paid by bringing value to the marketplace. Work together to grease that machine, trust in the process, know that there is enough for everyone and you will reap the rewards. When you work to sustain others, the universe will beat down your door to make sure you have everything you need and more!
I’m thankful for my independence – My mom taught me from an early age never to be dependent on another person to support me. I’ve always been a risk taker and I’ve made choices in life to insure my financial freedom. I’ve gone through a lot and because of my ability to provide for myself and my children, I’ve had options. I’m grateful that I am free to make decisions from a place of power.
I’m thankful for Pilates – I started doing Pilates a year ago and it has transformed by body. I absolutely love going. It’s an act of self-care and I feel stronger than I did in my 20s. It took me many years to understand the importance of self-care but carving out an hour a few times a week to care for my body and mind has made me more resilient to life’s ups and downs.
I’m thankful for God’s love – My boys had a Sunday school teacher who used to stop each child before they left her room and whisper in their ear “Nothing can separate you from the love of God”. It was such a simple act but my boys and I still remind each other of this when we pray. To know God loves me no matter what feels like I can go home at the end of the day and know that despite my failures or successes, I am loved and I’m enough.
What are you thankful for? This list is just scratching the surface for me but I’d love for each of you to take a few minutes to reflect on 2018 and give yourself a pat on the back for making it one more year. The gift of life is the greatest blessing. Thank you for being a great friend and client and I wish you the very best in 2019!
Happy New Year!! - Lindsay